Sunday, February 26, 2012

When Life Gives You a Head Nod

Carnaval in Veracruz, according to my incredibly reliable sources, is the 2nd best Carnaval in Latin America after Brazil. So we headed there last weekend to continue our exploration of Mexico and to Carnaval it up. Before even coming to Mexico, I had heard  that people from Veracruz are a lot more like Cubans than Mexicans and the week before Carnaval I heard a lot of stories about the happy and festive Veracruzano spirit (before having to sit through the obligatory "don't get shot" warning people always give). 

According to Wikipedia: 
Veracruz’s status as a port has made the city a blend of cultures, mostly indigenous, Spanish and Afro-Cuban. The influence of these three is best seen in the food and music of the area, which has strong Spanish, Caribbean and African influences.

We were definitely able to see those influences and the differences between Mexico City and Veracruz; differences I think manifested themselves mostly in the music and dance. People in Veracruz bump Reggaeton, Salsa, Merengue and Bachata everywhere. In front of convenience stores, pharmacies, restaurants, ice cream shops. It was just one huge party city. Somehow I don't think it was just a Carnaval thing. I really think these Veracruzanos just know how to get down. 


It was definitely one incredibly hectic trip that was also in some ways really emotionally charged. In the midst of all the romping around like crazies, there was actually a strange amount of significance to this trip. Little things here and there would pop up that in the grand scheme are probably just coincidences, but I'd like to take them as a head nod from life to remind me to cherish  the people and places that have been a part of my life, to enjoy the ones I have now, and to get excited for those to come.  
I'll break down the trip so you can see some examples of these head-nods and get an idea of how you live-up and take over a Carnaval in 2 days:

Getting there

For the 2nd time since I've been here, I've been in a taxi on the way to the bus station just to realize we'd never make it in time. It's really quite the "FML" moment because Mexico City traffic is no joke and tickets are non-refundable. Again we had to haul ass to a metro stop, cram into it with our luggage, pray that we made it in time and then jump out and sprint to the bus. We were late but somehow made it. We were just meant to Carnaval that weekend I suppose.


As soon as we settled down into our seats,  500 Days of Summer started up (it was Ironman 2 on the bus ride back). I bring it up because the chance that those 2 movies in particular were chosen is just some crazy cosmic way of life  winking at me and just the beginning of all the "head nods". It's awesome but I won't get into why here. We finally arrived in Veracruz at 11 pm. As in, we arrived at the bus stop. I suppose nights that start like that are just meant to be epic.

We explored the hotel, explored the main square and then headed out to celebrate. 



The view of the stage and the town square from our balcony. Model:Scott Wofford

The Food: 
The amount of eating on this trip was a little bit on the ludicrous side but you can't blame us. See pictures below: 

Bombas are essentially conchas filled with cream. I got my palm read as I ate this...yea that's right. 

Breakfast at 2 pm


 The Parade: 
The  parade started off with about 10 minutes of police and soldiers marching, driving or riding down the street to lots of cheering and applause. I guess it's a thanks from the community for restoring security in a city that has been plagued with a lot drug violence recently. 

The Police riding these strange tricycle things

After about an hour of standing in the crowd, we decided we didn't want to sit around and just observe the parade so we jumped behind a float and started prancing down the rest of the parade route. I'm sure this is illegal but somehow no authority figure seemed to mind that there were 3 Americans and a Canadian dancing around like a bunch a crazies (in masks) between a midst of perfectly choreographed dancers. 

Not sure how Carnaval goes in other places, but the floats and dancers blasted a lot of different kinds of music and more Salsa than expected. Below is my attempt to show you a glimpse of what was going on during the parade. It's kinda spliced and short but hey, I was Carnavaling people:



The Veracruz float

We had a few too many pictures of us modeling in these masks 

The Music: 
Now back to the head nod from life. 

As mentioned, Veracruzanos were supposed to be more like Caribbean folks than other Mexicans and I knew this going in, but the  music on this trip was a straight up soundtrack for my life at the moment. This was the case the entire time we were in Veracruz but most notably on our first night out.

When we walked into  La Casona, a club known most recently for the discovery of a severed head out front, the typical LMFAO-type craziness you expect was blasting. THEN, this man and his cover band showed up and decided to make this an epic night for me. 

You know how you have songs that have that ONE line that gets you every single time? Every song this man sang, was one of those. Most notably, my amigo sang: 

Yo no se Mañana-Luis Enrique
La Despedida-Daddy Yankee
Mientes-Camila


For blogging purposes, I even took a break from swooning like a 12 year-old Bieber fan, to take a video of this Cynthia-loving man singing "Tu Amor me hace Bien" by Marc Anthony

And no. That is NOT me screaming "I love you". 
Okay yes it is. 

Life, I give you a well-deserved head nod back.  Truly Amazing.

-Jarochos! A huevo! 

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Overcoming the Hostility Stage


It's over. My "I LOVE MEXICO SO MUCH!!" stage. It's over now.

Unfortunately, it wasn't a slow and progressive trek to this point but more of an abrupt and violent crash. I went home and I liked it. I saw friends, my family, a huge chunk of my support system and I realized how much of it I've been missing in my frantic adventuring through Mexico.

My "honeymoon stage" was characterized by overwhelming excitement whenever I tried a new kind of taco, the constant search for blog-worthy subjects and a strong awareness that I am blessed to have this opportunity. It's been replaced with the "hostility stage" in which very few things are interesting, the "little things" (MetroBus) are unbearably annoying, and I wonder a little too often if I'd be happier in the States and at Google. Also, I had this other thing happen. But if you don't know about it, then we've probably not chatted recently.

I guess it's a good thing it took me a little longer to hit that "hostility" stage


From the conversations I've had with my college buddies, I'm pretty certain this is more of an adverse reaction to being an adult and dealing with real life than it is to Mexico in particular. No dorms, no meal plan, no weekly ragers, no consistent support network, no comfort zone and worst of all, the knowledge that the time in my life when I had all of this ended a very short time ago. I've dealt with my heartbreak, feeling lonely, many hours of reflection and being mad at myself and then many more fighting to lift myself out of that self-destructive funk. My friends and family have proven to be amazing. So many chatted with me, gave me advice, listened to me cry and just let me be sad. In all reality,  one of the hardest parts has been just accepting that it IS a bad month and just letting it be. It's strange how hard it is to admit that you're in a bad place and letting yourself feel all the emotions that come along with it. But it's okay to have those times. It is okay. I will be okay.

Luckily, through all the shambles, I've learned a couple of important lessons: 
  1. Karma is a bitch.
  2. Although Karma is a bitch, forgiving yourself and others is necessary. We make decisions and then deal with the consequences. That's life. No regrets. 
  3. I can't spend life thinking in "What ifs" or in "If this happened, then...". I need to accept the present and be happy. It turns out that humans are hard-wired to be happy and that in looking at one's life, no matter how rich, beautiful or successful you are, a human will always try to make up ways that they could be happier.
  4. For all the goals I have for myself, I spend way too much time thinking about love, dating and marriage. 
  5. One day, I will wake up and smile about this.
  6. Hip-hop and Vallenato are therapeutic musics. 
In that fight to get back to my old self I've tried to go on adventures, trips, and to events where I may not know people and really worked to get back to achieving those goals that I listed in my very first post. Some of the things that have really stuck out in that process are: 

  • Skydiving
  • Going to Xochimilco with new friends
  • Seeing a Lucha Libre match
  • Boat riding in Valle de Bravo
  • Going to a hip-hop club in Mexico City


Went Skydiving on the 5 month anniversary of my arrival 


Boats are great places for thinking. And for listening to Ja Rule #Hartzogswag

In moving on, I have several things to look forward to including: 
  • My new roomate from Argentina 
  • My parents coming in 4 weeks
  • Heading to Carnaval in Veracruz
  • Whale watching in La Paz
  • Finishing my Accounting class
  • Turning 23 (actually this is terrifying) 
  • Going to Cancun 
I'd like to end this post by saying that I will likely not post again until I feel I'm out of this stage because no one likes a mopey blogger.  To end on a postive note though, I'd like to add that in addition to the life lessons, another great thing about this past month has been that I've had the chance to look back, listen to music and laugh a little bit. As usual, Drake has been a big part of my play list (The Motto and HYFR are good to start the day) but here are 2 that have been ESSENTIAL and also hilarious. One is a vallenato song with genuinely helpful lyrics and the other is just feel good music. Posting both of these makes me smile, because they are a sign of how different relationships and experiences, good or bad, contribute to who you are at the end of the day. Appreciating that and seeking more of those relationships and experiences, will be key to my moving on. 

Rosa Parks-Outkast 


Agua-Carlos Vives 
"He andado muchos caminos, he buscado mil tesoros,
  -You Only Live Once